Bad Mommy


June 17, 2008

I might be a bad mom. Here’s why: Berlyn and I went to Target yesterday to buy some toothpaste and before we left I had 3 cups of coffee and a large glass of water. When we got there I put Berlyn in the cart and after about 6 minutes, I started to do the pee-pee dance. I ran over the the restroom area, and realized that there was no way I was getting the entire shopping cart into the bathroom. As I was discovering this, a mom and her two kids were just leaving. The mom held the door for me and noticed my dilemma. She then offered to watch Berlyn while I went in to pee. She assured me that she wasn’t going to steal my baby or feed her shards of glass. The crazy thing was, I BELIEVED HER!! I was so desperate that I actually left my child with a stranger! Thankfully the woman talked to my child the whole time, and I could her Berlyn babbling back. I was so rushed, I forgot to flush and washing my hands was completely out of the question (I’m not totally disgusting, I used hand sanitizer later, gawd).
When I came back outside, I thanked the woman profusely, and she delightfully smiled and said that it was not a problem. So there it is. Lay it on me people, how bad of a mom am I? Would you ever leave your baby with a total stranger?


Had a similar encounter with a not so nice woman, but i did not leave my baby.

Cried about the thought of it the whole way home, though 🙁

You are not a bad mom. Mom’s have the ability to discern safe and unsafe situations.

by Jenielle Krusiewicz on June 17, 2008

If she had blue hair? Most definitely!

by gorillabuns on June 17, 2008

I’ve offered to watch/hold/corral the babies of others… and I’ve only kidnapped 2 or 3 of them.

by Kristin on June 17, 2008

Better than peeing your pants! You trusted your instincts that she was safe…

by Marketing Mama on June 17, 2008

I do stuff like that….both the watcher-of-the-kids and the leaver-of-the-kids-with-strangers-to-go-pee.

It was totally safe…you could hear her.

God gave us judgement and discernment for a reason…sometimes it’s ok to use them.

Glad you didnt pee your pants in target, although that would be a funnier blog post.

by heart shaped hedges on June 18, 2008

I think you were safe because the woman had two other kids. Who can single-handedly kidnap a toddler while rustling other kids? Getting two of my own on the same page at once is way harder than herding cats.

My mother-in-law just recently told me that when her son was little she had to use the public restroom and he didn’t want to go in. Right at that time a “nice lady” offered to look after him, so my mother-in-law agreed. Coming out of the restroom, however, she saw the woman trying to make off with the kid! Even though that was 40 years ago in the midwest, it shakes me to my core.

I always leave my cart outside the bathroom and drag the kids in, even though my son vomits at the smell of public bathrooms.

by dgm on June 18, 2008

Sometimes you just have to rely on the kindness of strangers for survival.

I had to ask some lady to keep an eye on my infant twins once when my three year old got away from me at the park. Talk about panic. We didn’t go to the park alone again until they were much older. Lesson learned…don’t be outnumbered in public spaces by people who depend on you to stay alive.

Most people are kind, especially other mommies who can empathize.

by Jen on June 19, 2008

You are NOT a bad mommy. I commend you for admitting something that you feel may summons negative feedback. You did what you had to do. I have had to do what I think is worse, and that is to lay my child on the bathroom floor ( on blanket, of course,which I immediately disposed of) and use the restroom. They need to make stalls big enough to accomodate parents AND children. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
BTW I started following you on twitter, if that is ok. I am not sure how to send messages to ask if I can follow someone. My life is not as exciting, but feel free to follow me. I have no followers. I am just an ordinary mom, well, actually not so ordinary, I am quite strange if I think about it, compared to the traditional soccer mom. I enjoy the kids, but maybe a little more childish than them..haha

so go forth, trust some, and don’t trust others. Mommies intuition is very strong, and so is her urge to pee…

Robin Dawn

by Robin Dawn ( from twitter) on June 29, 2008

Ok, I need to clear something up after reading my last response. When I put one of my children on the bathroom floor on a blanket, it was in the stall with me, not just out in the middle of the public restroom….lol ok didn’t want to check back in and have mommies yelling at me for my eyes to read, then me having to explain myself, as I am doing now…
oh yes, did I tell you I ramble ALOT???
Robin Dawn

by Robin Dawn on June 29, 2008

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