3 AM boobie call


November 23, 2010

If my baby could sleep through the night, all my problems would magically vanish. I’d have way more sex with my husband, I’d make the most perfect chocolate soufflé cake, I’d be way more interesting to talk to, and all my back fat would melt away.

This is what I tell myself at 3 AM every morning; right about the time when I’m walking down the hall to retrieve my fussy 11-month-old.

I think he’s too old to be waking up in the middle of the night. What does he need? He can’t possibly be hungry.

Maybe he’s bored?

Is his nose is stuffed up?

Maybe he has superior intelligence?

Ya, that’s it.

Superior intelligence.

Up until now I’ve been fine with the middle-of-the-night-wake-up-call.

I’ve justified it by thinking that it’s our special time to be together. I’ve thought it’s good for my milk supply to be nursing him, plus he gets a nice warm belly of healthy milk. And he has always been on the slender end of weight charts, so a little extra milk isn’t a bad thing, right?

But now that he’s almost a year old, I’m finally done with it.

He, on the other hand, would beg to differ.

I don’t know what to do now.

I’m in uncharted territory here.

With Berlyn, somehow I got that girl to sleep 12 hours at night when she was only 3 months old.

But with Hudson, it’s totally different. I’ve tried to fill his belly up before he goes to bed, I’ve tried to let him work it out on his own.

He’s even done it several times before–he’s gone 10-12 hours at night without a peep.

So I know he can do it. He just prefers not to.

I think he just wants to hang out with me…

At 3 AM.

Every night.

Well, these boobs have had enough of the 3 AM boobie call.

Mama’s shutting it down.

I NEED to sleep.

And he does too.

Any tips? Tricks? I’m desperate.


We do a 10:30 dream feeding (you know the one where they never actually wake up. Giving our little guy a 8oz bottle complete with rice cereal. Then we make sure he is good and pissed off before we go in at 3:00. usually letting him cry for at least an hour. (Sucks the first night, then it gets better.) That’s what works for us.

by Adam on November 23, 2010

Grim… I think I took my boobs and went away for the weekend and let it be Hugh’s problem… it was so long ago I don’t really remember, but that’s a good thing.

by Kristin on November 23, 2010

You stumbled onto it before but failed to realize it. He likes hard liquor.

by Mike Krause on November 23, 2010

Dunno…but when you find out tell me…my 5 year old still wakes up every night for a chat at about 2.30am. And she hasn’t been breastfed since she was 9 months old.

by Toni on November 23, 2010

My kid is 2 and still wakes up once or twice a night…every night. He’s never been much into long periods of sleep and we’ve tried “it all.” I remember when I stopped nursing him in the early morning around 10 months, Tim would go in to help him back to sleep. We did that for a week and then he realized no more boobies in the early morning and even though he would still wake up he wouldn’t get the boob. Now he wakes up talks, knocks on the wall and then just goes back to sleep. I can’t wait till he’s a teenager and I can wake him up :).

by mariah on November 23, 2010

well toots, if ur ready to take ur boobies back for yourself, then studsy hudsy is just gonna have to deal. sad but true. this is totally ur call. but it’s never easy. all us nursing moms have felt ur pain, ur not alone. it’s painful the first few nights; for ur boobs, ur heart and ur ears. in the long run though, he won’t remember and he’ll still be superiorly intelligent. 🙂

by jessica on November 23, 2010

Wish I could offer something more helpful than sympathy, but you got me. My 4 year old barely sleeps through the night still and didn’t do it for the first time until she was 2. I stopped nursing at 12 months, but she still wouldn’t sleep through the night, even once weened from a feeding.

by Jen on November 30, 2010

Going through this right now with my 7-month-old. Stopped nursing two nights ago and he seems to be waking up MORE often!

This is not good. Mama needs some sleep already!!

Good luck to you!

ps. God, it would be amazing if the back fat thing was true, wouldn’t it?

by RealMommyChron on November 30, 2010

With a clean bill of health & encouragement from my 9 month old son’s pediatrician, I moved into a downstairs bedroom (so hubby could sleep), set baby’s crib up in the entryway and let him figure it out on his own. It took one week of fitful, rage-filled turned pathetic ‘you-don’t-love-me’ crying episodes before he finally took the hint & would sleep for longer than 2 hours at a stretch.

by Susan on November 30, 2010

went through this as well. the screaming, boob-call not the melting back fat. we kept nursing until 16 months but had to stop the middle of the night… so i had my hubs give him a bottle of breast milk for a few nights and then he realized it wasn’t the same. so after a few wake-ups for the hubs, it was over in about a week. hope that helps, maybe? either way it is so very painful. for all involved. good luck.

by sarah on December 2, 2010

I read recently that giving the baby a bottle of water instead sometimes does the trick. After a few nights, they realize it just isn’t worth getting up for.
But what do I know? My little girl is like yours was–sleeps right through the night.

by Brendan on January 1, 2011

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